Ron Deal

Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.

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Compared to other siblings stepsiblings have less conflict. That may not be as good as it sounds. View Show Notes →
Really good parentsâ€"give each other advice. View Show Notes →
Laughter is contagious, right? Well, so is a smile. View Show Notes →
Have you forgotten to rejoice? View Show Notes →
Have you ever met a rich person who was miserable? View Show Notes →
Should dating and engaged couples talk about money? View Show Notes →
Parents need to get off the teeter-totter. View Show Notes →
Did your mom ever tell you to "Act your best"? View Show Notes →
How do you let stepchildren know you’re not trying to take their parent’s place? View Show Notes →
Is self-care the same as selfishness? View Show Notes →
Ron, what do we do? My kids are confusing my husband. View Show Notes →
Did you know that when it comes to your neighbor, the Bible says that if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all? View Show Notes →
I think it’s time to rethink premarital sex and cohabitation. View Show Notes →
Ron, how does autism affect a stepfamily? View Show Notes →
You’ve heard me say it before, "As parents united you stand, but divided they fall. View Show Notes →
Good parents, respect each other. View Show Notes →
Hey Ron, it just occurred to me: I live in a stepfamily, too. View Show Notes →
You know what DTR is, right? Define the relationship. Well, it’s not just a concept for dating couples. View Show Notes →
Believe it or not, sometimes it’s best not to love best. View Show Notes →
Sometimes in parenting, one parent is a lot more serious about godliness than the other. View Show Notes →
Having a healthy self-esteem is a really good thing. But there’s something much better. View Show Notes →
Research confirms; spending time together is a quality of strong families. View Show Notes →
Do you know why kids have middle names? So, they’ll know when to behave. View Show Notes →
How do you form a loving relationship with someone who isn’t motivated to love you? View Show Notes →
Hey, don’t text and drive. And don’t text and parent. View Show Notes →
Ok, imagine sitting next to a campfire, and scooping up a few burning logs and placing them in your lap. Yeah, that’s going to leave a mark. View Show Notes →
Want a great tip for deepening a friendship? It starts with you sharing you. View Show Notes →
Godly people try to make friends out of enemies. View Show Notes →
Have you ever thought, "Maybe I’m being too negative"? View Show Notes →
When it comes to time with your kids, backing out is backing down. View Show Notes →
Have you ever noticed how much easier it is to forgive a family member than somebody else? View Show Notes →
Have you ever noticed that in order to stay alive, you have to keep feeding yourself? View Show Notes →
When jumping into a river, try avoiding the rapids! View Show Notes →
When it comes to kids, who you respect is who they respect. View Show Notes →
Don’t fracture a child’s heart. Put it together and let love flow freely. View Show Notes →
What do you see, when you look at yourself, through heaven’s eyes? View Show Notes →
You know what I love? I love it when our family’s in the car and my wife makes a declaration, "Hey, it’s happy hour. It’s time for a Sonic run! View Show Notes →
Have you ever gotten confused about which terms to use when referring to someone else’s family members? View Show Notes →
Friends. Some of us have a lot of them and some of us have only a few. But do you love them all the same? View Show Notes →
Ron, after the end of a relationship, how long should I wait before dating again? View Show Notes →
Ron, what do you do if you’re trying to bond with a stepchild, but all they say is, "Talk to the hand"? View Show Notes →
Ron, Ron, bo Bon, Bonana fanna fo Fon…Okay, you know what I’m doing. I’m playing the name game. Well, stepfamilies play a different name game. View Show Notes →
We all know that divorce is hard on kids, right? But did you know that adjusting to a parent’s remarriage is even harder. View Show Notes →
But Ron, I don’t want to date someone who has kids." Well, good. I don’t want you to either. View Show Notes →
Ron, my ex-husband is telling our son that he can’t call his stepfather "Dad." But, of course, I want him to. Is there anything I can do about that? View Show Notes →
Ron, I’m concerned. My children now have a stepparent in the other home and I’m afraid I’m going to lose them. What do I do? View Show Notes →
Loving a child who has been hurt can be really tough. Persevering in love is how you win them over. View Show Notes →
All right all you married lovers out there do you speak Valentine? View Show Notes →
Want to win the favor of your family? Try love and faithfulness. View Show Notes →
Have you ever thought about how dysfunctional the families of the Bible were? View Show Notes →
Have you ever had to kick someone out of your small group Bible study? I have and it wasn’t fun. View Show Notes →
I’m wondering, what helps you to be more like Christ? View Show Notes →
Don’t just plan a wedding. Prepare to be married. View Show Notes →
Everyone doesn’t love Valentine's Day. Singles and marrieds alike feel isolated and alone. Ron Deal, LPC, helps you cope with profound loneliness. View Show Notes →
Here’s a fun fact for you. In the early years of a blended family the level of stress is typically very high. View Show Notes →
Here’s a not so secret quality of strong families. They have fun together. View Show Notes →
Okay, so you’re a new stepparent or stepgrandparent and you’re trying to figure out where to start. View Show Notes →
Pay attention. Beware of the forbidden woman. View Show Notes →
Ron, I'm marrying a man with adult children. I suppose our family transition will be easier since we have an empty nest, right? Ah, well… View Show Notes →
Dad, I just want you to be happy. View Show Notes →
The book of Proverbs says, listen to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. But what about a stepfather or a stepmother’s instruction? Do you have to listen to that, too? View Show Notes →
In stepfamilies sometimes family members compete. View Show Notes →
If you're single and dating and at least one of you has kids you need to do your homework. View Show Notes →
We’ve all heard Romans 5:8; "while we were still sinners Christ died for us. View Show Notes →
Alright, here’s a hard one. How do you help an irresponsible person to become responsible? View Show Notes →
What you mean start one ourselves? Can we do that? View Show Notes →
Never ask your child to become a spy kid. View Show Notes →
Do you know what happens when a boomerang child leaves your home? They come back. View Show Notes →
With well over half of couples today living together before marriage there must be some really good benefits to doing so, right? View Show Notes →
When wisdom calls or speaks do you listen? View Show Notes →
When you choose a mate you choose a set of problems for the rest of your life. View Show Notes →
Here’s one you haven’t heard in the media lately. Good news about stepparents. View Show Notes →
Have you ever noticed that in God’s ministry strategy the wrong person is often the right person? View Show Notes →
What would you say to a parent who is actively teaching their child to steal? View Show Notes →
Well, you never saw this one coming. You just became a step-grandparent. How do you do that? View Show Notes →
Have you ever noticed a parent turning a blind eye to their child’s poor behavior? View Show Notes →
Do you want to know if you are ready to marry someone? Do not live together. View Show Notes →
Now I know you’ve heard me say some crazy things but this one takes the cake. Learn to endure disharmony in your home. View Show Notes →
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge. View Show Notes →
So, where is your faith? View Show Notes →
When you turn on a light, do you cover it up? No, you let it shine. View Show Notes →
Don’t judge people on their "before." Focus on their "after." View Show Notes →
Accommodating someone’s preferences out of love for the Lord is an act of faith. View Show Notes →
Caution: Love without caution. View Show Notes →
Choosing obedience, in hard situations, pays dividends beyond our wildest dreams. View Show Notes →
Her only complaint? That they didn’t come into her life earlier. View Show Notes →
Parenting requires cooperation. View Show Notes →
Have you ever been caught between two people you love? View Show Notes →
No, Ron, I don’t think a forever family is possible. At least not for me. View Show Notes →
Family should take care of family, right? View Show Notes →
In marriage, things can escalate quickly. View Show Notes →
Nontraditional is the new traditional. View Show Notes →
Family, tells a truth about God. View Show Notes →
How do you fill a hole in a child’s heart? View Show Notes →
It's the most wonderful time of the year!" But if you're in a stepfamily, the holidays can get complicated pretty fast. Ron Deal offers some perspective, and gives counsel for how to navigate Christmas in a stepfamily. View Show Notes →
I need help, Ron. I’ve got a sassy teenager. View Show Notes →
Oh, sure. Everyone knows the Golden Rule. View Show Notes →
Yeah, I know we don’t have a pilot, but let’s fly anyway. View Show Notes →
Everyone likes a warm smile. But what about a cold shoulder. View Show Notes →
Ron, we get married in a couple of months…and now my son gets angry? View Show Notes →
Ideally, kids need two good parents. But what if you only have one? View Show Notes →
No one likes to get caught in someone else’s conflict. View Show Notes →
Doing good…is always good. View Show Notes →
Can every home be a godly home? View Show Notes →
For your kid’s sake, wouldn’t you like to know the path to great faith? View Show Notes →
Look at your life through someone else’s eyes. View Show Notes →
Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise. View Show Notes →
How do you save a struggling marriage? View Show Notes →
Today, I’m stepping into controversy and some of you are going to be irritated. View Show Notes →
My audience is getting more gray. View Show Notes →
He who has authority to heal, has authority to rule. View Show Notes →
He who has authority to heal, has authority to rule. View Show Notes →
Would you like to make Father's Day a great day for your dad? Get along! View Show Notes →
Would you like to make Father's Day a great day for your dad? Get along! View Show Notes →
Ron, my family is living proof that dysfunction breeds dysfunction. View Show Notes →
Ron, my family is living proof that dysfunction breeds dysfunction. View Show Notes →
When a parent dies who can best fill the gap for a child? View Show Notes →
When a parent dies who can best fill the gap for a child? View Show Notes →
When a parent dies who can best fill the gap for a child? View Show Notes →
When a parent dies who can best fill the gap for a child? View Show Notes →
When two people you love are in conflict-don't' get caught in the triangle. View Show Notes →
When two people you love are in conflict-don't' get caught in the triangle. View Show Notes →
When you're parenting a grieving child, you have some special challenges to overcome. View Show Notes →
When you're parenting a grieving child, you have some special challenges to overcome. View Show Notes →
It's time for a dating attitude adjustment. View Show Notes →
It's time for a dating attitude adjustment. View Show Notes →
Does your church have a ministry to stepfamilies? View Show Notes →
Does your church have a ministry to stepfamilies? View Show Notes →
Does your church have a ministry to stepfamilies? View Show Notes →
Does your church have a ministry to stepfamilies? View Show Notes →
In parenting, it's always good to know your bias. View Show Notes →
In parenting, it's always good to know your bias. View Show Notes →
Have you ever noticed: we judge ourselves on our intentions; we judge others on their actions? View Show Notes →
Have you ever noticed: we judge ourselves on our intentions; we judge others on their actions? View Show Notes →
Maybe it's time you reached across the aisle. View Show Notes →
Maybe it's time you reached across the aisle. View Show Notes →
In the movies-and life-scary music means it's time to run! View Show Notes →
In the movies-and life-scary music means it's time to run! View Show Notes →
Do you want to win at life? Surround yourself with wise people. View Show Notes →
Do you want to win at life? Surround yourself with wise people. View Show Notes →
Have you ever tried to talk someone into loving you? View Show Notes →
Have you ever tried to talk someone into loving you? View Show Notes →
Now, I expect you to be courteous. View Show Notes →
Now, I expect you to be courteous. View Show Notes →
Ron, will God bless my marriage? View Show Notes →
Ron, will God bless my marriage? View Show Notes →
Ron, will God bless my marriage? View Show Notes →
Ron, will God bless my marriage? View Show Notes →
To those serving us, we want to serve. View Show Notes →
To those serving us, we want to serve. View Show Notes →
I'm pro-hospital. Aren't you? View Show Notes →
I'm pro-hospital. Aren't you? View Show Notes →
Okay, are you a stepparent or a bonus parent? View Show Notes →
Okay, are you a stepparent or a bonus parent? View Show Notes →
Okay, are you a stepparent or a bonus parent? View Show Notes →
Okay, are you a stepparent or a bonus parent? View Show Notes →
When forgiveness is difficult to do...chop it up. View Show Notes →
When forgiveness is difficult to do...chop it up. View Show Notes →
What? Cards, gifts, and acts of kindness for your ex? View Show Notes →
What? Cards, gifts, and acts of kindness for your ex? View Show Notes →
Stepparents, have a bonus parent mentality. View Show Notes →
Stepparents, have a bonus parent mentality. View Show Notes →
Stepparents, have a bonus parent mentality. View Show Notes →
Stepparents, have a bonus parent mentality. View Show Notes →
Technology is great but it can keep our together families apart. View Show Notes →
Technology is great but it can keep our together families apart. View Show Notes →
Are you blindly repeating the patterns of the past? View Show Notes →
Are you blindly repeating the patterns of the past? View Show Notes →
Are you becoming the spouse you need to be? View Show Notes →
Are you becoming the spouse you need to be? View Show Notes →
Did we just make our kids part of a blended family? View Show Notes →
Did we just make our kids part of a blended family? View Show Notes →
Be careful parents. You might disintegrate your child. View Show Notes →
Be careful parents. You might disintegrate your child. View Show Notes →
You know what? Well-intended bad advice...is still bad advice. View Show Notes →
You know what? Well-intended bad advice...is still bad advice. View Show Notes →
Okay, it's a bit hypocritical, but here goes: Saying "stupid" to your kids is stupid. View Show Notes →
Okay, it's a bit hypocritical, but here goes: Saying "stupid" to your kids is stupid. View Show Notes →
When things look hopeless, seek the Lord continually. View Show Notes →
When things look hopeless, seek the Lord continually. View Show Notes →
When things look hopeless, seek the Lord continually. View Show Notes →
When things look hopeless, seek the Lord continually. View Show Notes →
We just had to stay committed to getting through those early years. View Show Notes →
We just had to stay committed to getting through those early years. View Show Notes →
One decision can make all the difference. View Show Notes →
One decision can make all the difference. View Show Notes →
Hit debt with a snowball. View Show Notes →
Hit debt with a snowball. View Show Notes →
Hit debt with a snowball. View Show Notes →
Hit debt with a snowball. View Show Notes →
One of the ways pride affects your marriage-it blinds you to you. View Show Notes →
One of the ways pride affects your marriage-it blinds you to you. View Show Notes →
What do you do when your love associations differ? View Show Notes →
What do you do when your love associations differ? View Show Notes →
Kids, where do you put a stepparent in your heart? View Show Notes →
Kids, where do you put a stepparent in your heart? View Show Notes →
So, if both parents die who gets your kids? View Show Notes →
So, if both parents die who gets your kids? View Show Notes →
A pre-nup. You want us to do a pre-nup? View Show Notes →
A pre-nup. You want us to do a pre-nup? View Show Notes →
Be careful. Don't turn a stepfamily problem into "Us vs. You." View Show Notes →
Be careful. Don't turn a stepfamily problem into "Us vs. You." View Show Notes →
When strong ocean winds blow, you need an anchor. View Show Notes →
When strong ocean winds blow, you need an anchor. View Show Notes →
Ok, folks, let's be careful with our words. View Show Notes →
Ok, folks, let's be careful with our words. View Show Notes →
Ok, folks, let's be careful with our words. View Show Notes →
Ok, folks, let's be careful with our words. View Show Notes →
I got a question: How long did the father wait for the prodigal son to return? View Show Notes →
I got a question: How long did the father wait for the prodigal son to return? View Show Notes →
Every house, has its own blueprint. View Show Notes →
Every house, has its own blueprint. View Show Notes →
No, the bridge was always there. She just finally crossed it. View Show Notes →
No, the bridge was always there. She just finally crossed it. View Show Notes →
No, the bridge was always there. She just finally crossed it. View Show Notes →
No, the bridge was always there. She just finally crossed it. View Show Notes →
When a child misbehaves, make sure you lead with love. View Show Notes →
When a child misbehaves, make sure you lead with love. View Show Notes →
Sometimes you have to step through the wilderness with trust and raw determination. View Show Notes →
Sometimes you have to step through the wilderness with trust and raw determination. View Show Notes →
What's so good about death? View Show Notes →
What's so good about death? View Show Notes →
What's so good about death? View Show Notes →
What's so good about death? View Show Notes →
Patience is definitely a virtue. View Show Notes →
Patience is definitely a virtue. View Show Notes →
In marriage, is "separate" ever okay? View Show Notes →
In marriage, is "separate" ever okay? View Show Notes →
You've heard me say it before, "As parents united you stand, but divided they fall." View Show Notes →
You've heard me say it before, "As parents united you stand, but divided they fall." View Show Notes →
Sometimes in parenting, one parent is a lot more serious about godliness than the other. View Show Notes →
Sometimes in parenting, one parent is a lot more serious about godliness than the other. View Show Notes →
Do you know why kids have middle names? So, they'll know when to behave. View Show Notes →
Do you know why kids have middle names? So, they'll know when to behave. View Show Notes →
Hey, don't text and drive. And don't text and parent. View Show Notes →
Hey, don't text and drive. And don't text and parent. View Show Notes →
Godly people try to make friends out of enemies. View Show Notes →
Godly people try to make friends out of enemies. View Show Notes →
Have you ever thought, "Maybe I'm being too negative"? View Show Notes →
Have you ever thought, "Maybe I'm being too negative"? View Show Notes →
Have you ever thought, "Maybe I'm being too negative"? View Show Notes →
Have you ever thought, "Maybe I'm being too negative"? View Show Notes →
When it comes to time with your kids, backing out is backing down. View Show Notes →
When it comes to time with your kids, backing out is backing down. View Show Notes →
When jumping into a river, try avoiding the rapids! View Show Notes →
When jumping into a river, try avoiding the rapids! View Show Notes →
When it comes to kids, who you respect is who they respect. View Show Notes →
When it comes to kids, who you respect is who they respect. View Show Notes →
When it comes to kids, who you respect is who they respect. View Show Notes →
When it comes to kids, who you respect is who they respect. View Show Notes →
Don't fracture a child's heart. Put it together and let love flow freely. View Show Notes →
Don't fracture a child's heart. Put it together and let love flow freely. View Show Notes →
The two-step is not just a dance in Texas. View Show Notes →
The two-step is not just a dance in Texas. View Show Notes →
Lying and hiding the truth just means you have to live in fear. View Show Notes →
Lying and hiding the truth just means you have to live in fear. View Show Notes →
Ok, stepfamilies. It's time to step down...your expectations, I mean. View Show Notes →
Ok, stepfamilies. It's time to step down...your expectations, I mean. View Show Notes →
From your kids-wouldn't you appreciate a little gratitude! View Show Notes →
From your kids-wouldn't you appreciate a little gratitude! View Show Notes →
In some ways discipleship is simply taking off and putting on. View Show Notes →
In some ways discipleship is simply taking off and putting on. View Show Notes →
Sometimes parents find themselves at a real disadvantage. View Show Notes →
Sometimes parents find themselves at a real disadvantage. View Show Notes →
No, we can't have you at our church because your background and past might infect everyone else. View Show Notes →
No, we can't have you at our church because your background and past might infect everyone else. View Show Notes →
No, we can't have you at our church because your background and past might infect everyone else. View Show Notes →
No, we can't have you at our church because your background and past might infect everyone else. View Show Notes →
Stepfamily living...without God? Now that's a thorny path. View Show Notes →
Stepfamily living...without God? Now that's a thorny path. View Show Notes →
Ron, our marriage is great. It would be wonderful if it was just the two of us but it's not. View Show Notes →
Ron, our marriage is great. It would be wonderful if it was just the two of us but it's not. View Show Notes →
Hey, man, get a hold of yourself. View Show Notes →
Hey, man, get a hold of yourself. View Show Notes →
You know, when you shoot par for the course, you're doing pretty good. View Show Notes →
Join Bob Lepine, Ron Deal, Gary Chapman, Juli Slattery, Charlie and Kirstie Dates, and Dave and Ann Wilson for a panel discussion about marriage recorded aboard the 2020 Love Like You Mean It® marriage cruise. View Show Notes →
Gary Chapman joins Ron Deal to talk about loving your blended family members through the five love languages: touch, quality time, gifts, words of affirmation, and acts of service. View Show Notes →
Gary Chapman and Ron Deal team up to talk about applying the love languages to a second marriage. Both spouses need to be intentional about protecting their marriage and reassuring their children. View Show Notes →
What says love to you? A tender touch? A surprise gift? Time with your honey? Gary Chapman joins blended-family expert Ron Deal, to talk about the love languages and the blended family. View Show Notes →
Ron, I really want to get married again someday, but before I do, I want to learn as much as I can so I don't repeat the past. View Show Notes →
I'm wondering, should you pray for God to change your spouse? View Show Notes →
Hey Ron, can stepparents discipline their stepchildren? View Show Notes →
Ron, I thought I was going crazy, but now I know I'm not alone. View Show Notes →
Okay, kids, we just gave some money to the homeless man at the last street corner. Do you give some more to the guy at this corner?" View Show Notes →
Benjamin Franklin said, "If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail." View Show Notes →
When kids live between two homes, you can't win every parenting battle, but some issues are a hill worth dying on. View Show Notes →
You know that last argument you had-it was definitely the other person's fault. View Show Notes →
Now here's a resolution for you. Colossians 3 says, "Set your mind on things above." View Show Notes →
Hey stepparents, did you know you're the competition? View Show Notes →
When it comes to disagreements, a prideful person just makes things worse. View Show Notes →
Do you remember record albums? How many grooves are there in a 12-inch record? View Show Notes →
Have you ever gotten the feeling that your relationships are doing a number on you? View Show Notes →
Ahhh, can you feel that? It's the magic of Christmas! View Show Notes →
Ron, I just don't think I was cut out to be part of a stepfamily. View Show Notes →
We all have a God-shaped hole in our heart. And a dad-shaped hole. View Show Notes →
Does your childhood, or previous relationships, ever creep into your current ones? Ron Deal is talking with USA Today best-selling author Tricia Goyer on this topic. View Show Notes →
Stepmoms bear a unique burden, and they often neglect their own care. Melanie Anthony offers hope for balance in the midst of the burden. View Show Notes →
Rodney and Lisa Webb share their difficult blended journey, as counselor and therapist Helen Wheeler and blended family expert Ron Deal speak wisdom. View Show Notes →
Parenting is difficult, but when you add divorce, the challenge multiplies. Navigating even the most routine parental responsibilities can become difficult. Linda Ranson Jacobs talks to Ron Deal, offering help and hope to parents who may be struggling. View Show Notes →
Ronnie Tyler may have been in love with her husband, Lamar, but she wasn't that interested in his help with raising her two children. Ron Deal explores the complex nuances of blended relationships. View Show Notes →
Ronnie Tyler may have been in love with her husband, Lamar, but she wasn't that interested in his help with raising her two children. Ron Deal explores the complex nuances of blended relationships. View Show Notes →
Growing up, Dave Bondeson's father told him, "Remember, you're a Bondeson and a Christian." Dave finds it challenging to translate that into a blended family with a stepdaughter whose last name is not Bondeson. View Show Notes →
Authors Dave and Ann Wilson talk to Ron Deal about the impact divorce can have on a person's life. The Wilsons share how the divorce impacted Dave's ability to resolve conflict in a healthy way. View Show Notes →
Dave and Ann Wilson talk to Ron Deal about the hard realities of his parents' divorce when he was seven years old. Hear firsthand how divorce impacts a child. View Show Notes →
A panel of experts answers your questions about forgiveness in marriage. Voddie Baucham, Juli Slattery, DA and Elicia Horton, and Ron Deal address difficult situations with truth from Scripture. View Show Notes →
A panel of experts answers some of your toughest questions about marital intimacy. Voddie Baucham, Juli Slattery, DA and Elicia Horton, and Ron Deal address difficult situations with truth from Scripture. View Show Notes →
Ron Deal tackles the delicate topic of sexual intimacy. As Deal explains, to be intimate with someone is to know them at a deep level. But what does a person do with their sexual past, especially as they enter into a new marriage? View Show Notes →